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Well, it\u2019s just a preference, isn’t it? I mean, there’s nothing wrong in not finding a race attractive.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u2026Honey, who lied to you? Your ‘racial preference’ is built on stereotypes, but you haven’t realised it. Have you ever asked yourself why you don’t date this race? Why they seem so unattractive to you based on their race<\/strong>?<\/p>\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n

I asked myself those questions. Why won\u2019t I date Asians? Why won\u2019t I date Middle Easterns? I was baffled by my first thoughts. When I thought of Asian, I thought little guys with delicate features as opposed to my preference of big rugged men. This seems like an innocent misconception since it’s not harmful or insulting. However, even ‘innocent’ stereotypes are offensive. It’s so narrowminded to ever believe all Asian men have smaller statures, I mean if you google \u2018muscular Asian guys\u2019 right now, you\u2019ll clearly see how insane my thoughts were.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why don\u2019t I date middle eastern guys? I mean I\u2019m clearly obsessed with Zayn Malik ( a spicy half Pakistani, half English slice of heaven) and I think the middle east is filled with good looking guys. I remember my first trip to Dubai; I was literally speechless, but that was probably due to all the saliva gushing out of my mouth. It\u2019s like God was really happy moments before making the people cause beauty definitely is etched in their genes. See I\u2019m sooo distracted by them. The point is with my evident appreciation of middle eastern guys, something was holding me back. That was due to all the negative stereotypes about them, ranging from the treatment of women to more wicked thoughts.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

No matter how logical you are about stereotypes, how they obviously aren’t entirely true, how they are generalisations or how glaringly false they are; these ugly thoughts sneak up on you. The world’s perception of different races is so deeply ingrained into our reasoning and lifestyle. These stereotypes are dark shadows that follow us. No matter how much you want to let them go, they aggressively cling on to your development. It\u2019s crazy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Fortunately, I don\u2019t think this way anymore. I\u2019ve come to terms with stereotypes I carry about other races and actively denounce them. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Finally, lemme say it loud and clear: having a racial preference is racist. Simply because your preference comes from stereotypes about skin colour, behaviour and ethnicity. ‘Black women are too loud and crazy.’ ‘White girls are too bland and weird.’ ‘Indians oppress their women.’  Don’t let stereotypes stop you from exploring different people and cultures (definitely in a non-fetishising way). Stereotypes might creep up occasionally, but once you’re aware of how crazy it is to think such and how not everyone acts that particular way, it becomes easier to unlearn them. With this, I release you into the world with new lenses. On your marks, set\u2026. DATE!!!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Key Quote: \u2018I met a woman who told me she wasn’t attracted to Asians. No worries, I said. I’m not   attracted to racists.\u2019
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